My husband and I just celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary! Seems like such a short time ago that we met, fell in love and committed ourselves to each other in marriage. We’re even more in love and happier today than when we met. Why?.
My last two blog articles were about what we think and what we believe as powerful forces affecting us in love, dating and marriage. If you missed one or both in this series, you’ll want to go back and read them to catch up. Today is about the power of the words we say, especially to ourselves to change everything.
“Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right.” Henry Ford said this in his now famous quote. He was making a powerful statement that what we think really matters.
Yet, I meet single women all the time who tell me things about themselves, men, dating and marriage that aren’t real and certainly aren’t getting them any closer to attracting their ideal love relationship.
Some women seem to naturally attract this type of interest and attention while others continue to struggle for years without any results. You may even be asking yourself, “What do these women know that I don’t?”
During a recent speaking engagement, I was asked this question: “How do I know when to start following up with a date – when do I call him or send him a text?” I love this question and I always wince at the same time.
Finding an authentic love connection does not have to mean heartbreak and struggle. You CAN have the recipe to accelerate your dreams of cuddling up with your true love. You just need to know how to get from Point A (dating frogs zone) to Point B (happily in love zone.)
We’ve all done this – asked the wrong question and then wondered why our issue isn’t being resolved. Women are really good at asking this question especially when we want to find love and it hasn’t happened already.
We’ve all been there – that moment when someone does or says something way out of line with our expectations and/or standards. When it happens it’s surprising, somewhat shocking and can leave us so aghast we hardly know what to say.
Romantic love is magical - an almost indescribably delicious feeling, yet much, much more! Love is a behavior. It’s the power behind, in front of and all around the relationship. Love is what creates that deepest, most intimate place of refuge.
Most women do this well, myself included. We berate ourselves for putting up with love relationship partners when their behavior towards us is simply unacceptable. Why do we do this at all, let alone for the years and even decades we’ve tolerated the intolerable.
Are you tired of trying to be perfect? I know I am. We are human and as spiritual guru and all-around amazing woman, Iyanla Vanzant says, we are just “messy’ and sometimes “crazy as hell.” No one is perfect.
There was a time when I was just stuck – stuck in a pattern of life that wasn’t working out very well. Because it was familiar and I didn’t know what else to do I just carried on wishing and hoping things would change for the better.
Are you setting any new intentions for your life in 2019? How about your love life? If you are still single and desire to be part of a loving couple, then I hope you take a few minutes to consider just what you might do differently this year.