3 Decisions That Changed Everything
There was a time when I was just stuck – stuck in a pattern of life that wasn’t working out very well. Because it was familiar and I didn’t know what else to do I just carried on wishing and hoping things would change for the better. They didn’t. Nothing changed because I didn’t change my way of thinking or they way I was approaching my problems.
Have you ever been there? Are you there now in a love relationship or marriage that sucks the life out of you?
If so you are not alone. Even if you are not in an unfulfilling love relationship you may be frustrated by not knowing what to do to find real love. I was there until I made 3 decisions that changed everything.
Decision 1: Acceptance: I decided to accept the fact that some things are not able to be repaired. I gave myself permission to stop beating my head against the wall as the saying goes trying to single handedly fix my marriage. I let myself know it was okay to let go of something that was no longer viable and in fact was already long gone.
Even though my decision to leave a 20 plus year marriage would upset my family, I could not carry on any longer. It’s hard to leave any relationship you’ve invested your love, time and energy into, but I knew I deserved to be happy and to be in love with someone who would love and support me too.
What might you decide to stop trying to fix?
Decision 2: Self care: I decided to take care of myself physically, emotionally and spiritually. I realized I’d been trying to take care of others from an empty cup. Of course, this does not work on any real level.
I began to fit exercise into my daily life. I made better decisions about what I was eating. I decided my old religious beliefs no longer served me and in fact I had questioned many of the things I’d been taught since childhood. Now I could read and consider other spiritual beliefs and decide for myself what resonated with me. This was truly liberating.
That others believed I would go to hell for getting a divorce was their issue and not mine. I know in my heart the Divine/Spirit/God is not interested in a lifetime of my suffering. I embraced my personal joy.
Decision 3: Action: I decided to accept guidance/mentoring/coaching. As the saying goes, when we are ready, the teacher will appear. This happened for me and this time I was ready to learn how to have the life I’d always wanted, but feared didn’t exist.
I relaxed into knowing I was being lead in the direction of my dreams. I had known for a long time what I wanted just not how to get there.
If any of this resonates with you, I hope you will start today to make decisions that support your life more fully. You can have a loving, supportive relationship with an intimate partner who loves and adores you. You don’t have to settle for less or do anything drastic like being married to a stranger. I watch the television show, Married at First Sight and just feel so sorry for these folks.
Don’t give in to frustration or hopelessness. Listen to your heart and decide to reach out. I’m here for you right now.
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