3 Reasons He Didn't Call


This is one of the most common questions I hear from single women after they start dating again. Why didn't he call? I feel the angst in their voices as they recall the wonderful time they had on their date with someone they felt sure was interested enough to pursue them. What happened?

Of course it’s very confusing to women when their date seems to have been enjoying themselves and then ends the evening with one of the biggest lies men tell – I’ll call you. Why do they say this? 

To find out watch this week’s video, 3 Reasons He Didn’t Call:

Why does he say he’ll call, if he doesn’t intend to follow-up with you? He’s a coward when it comes to being honest with you. He doesn’t want to deal with your questions or emotions. It’s really that simple. Nice guys don’t want to hurt your feelings.

They don’t realize mature women would rather know the truth. At least I hope you would. If he’s not attracted enough to ask you out again, please know he’s doing you a favor by not prolonging the inevitable.

You don’t really want him to continue taking up your time if he’s not in to you, do you? Why spend time with him when you could be creating space for your ideal love match to find you? Let him go with a smile and a thank you.

Why didn’t he call you again?

1) He didn’t feel a connection with you: You can’t convince a man to want you no matter what you try. I know women who’ve done this by relentlessly pursuing a man until he gives in and dates them. These stories do not usually end well. You want to feel truly desired by your man, don’t you? Then let him pursue you.

2) There are too many incompatibilities: You may have discussed enough topics on your first few dates for him to decide you are not a match. Whether it’s lifestyle, political or religious differences or something else really doesn’t matter. It’s better to know sooner than later. One of my clients told me she was often disappointed by dates who said they were physically active and loved to ski only to find out they hadn’t been on the slopes in years. She walks away immediately knowing this doesn’t work for her active lifestyle.

3) You’re not his type: I’m not talking about physical characteristics like hair color, height, weight, or body type although those do play a role in initial attraction. You may be too sexy or too conservative for him. Your personalities may not mesh well together. Don’t try too hard to impress him. Just be yourself and your mate will love you for you.

There are lots of other reasons he may not call you, but I hope these have given you the courage to let it go when he doesn’t pursue you. Please don’t act like a psycho calling him demanding to know why he hasn’t gotten back to you. No stalking or any other extreme behavior is okay.

There are lots of good men out there. This one simply isn’t yours. Breathe and repeat until you believe it.

Much Love,


Denver Love Coach

Gayla Wick, Denver Love Coach and author of The Art of Attracting Authentic Love (A Transformational Four-Step Process) shows women how to go from frustrated and disappointed to attracting an authentic love match with confidence and clarity.

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