4 Ways To FASCINATE Your Man
Yes, you want him to notice you, ask for more dates and want to spend lots of time with you throughout your love relationship. Some women seem to naturally attract this type of interest and attention while others continue to struggle for years without any results. You may even be asking yourself, “What do these women know that I don’t?”
Love relationships begin with mutual attraction and flourish when that initial attraction deepens into mutual respect, admiration and yes even fascination with each other on many levels.
Here are four ways you can increase your ability to fascinate:
Exude Confidence. Healthy men find a confident woman almost irresistible. Walk like you know where you are going, smile from the depths of your heart, know when to speak and when to listen. These are all part of the mystique of attractive women. It’s important to have a little mystique factor – that sense a man has that he’ll never quite know everything about us. In Sally Hogshead’s book, Fascinate she says, “Mystique is eye-catching enough to get noticed, yet complex enough to stay interesting.”
Look great and feel even better. The role of appearance is a “gate” we simply can’t get past for ourselves or for a potential partner. If you don’t love the way you look, you won’t have the confidence we just talked about. Take care of yourself internally and externally because you’re worth it; don’t do it to please anyone else.
One of the great paradoxes of relationships is that you must love yourself unconditionally in order to attract someone into your life that will love you the way you want to be loved. I’m not talking about arrogance or extreme self-centeredness, but I am clear that you must have the deepest respect for yourself and know your own value.
Set and respect your own healthy boundaries. We really do teach others how to treat us. I wish I’d understood this wonderful life wisdom a long time ago. I encourage you will take time to think about how this might apply to your relationships whether they are co-workers, bosses, friends, family or lovers.
When anyone takes a stand in their relationship by not accepting mistreatment, they take back their power. Sometimes this is not easy. Setting healthy boundaries for yourself is a critical part of a safe, respectful relationship. Most men, the type that you would actually want in your life, appreciate knowing your boundaries and that you will defend them. This is an attractive and fascinating trait.
Decide to be happy. Declaring my own personal happiness regardless of circumstances was the pivotal decision that changed everything for me. Once I realized that happiness was a choice I could make right where I was, I awoke and began a journey from victimization to whole, healthy and happy one step at a time.
During my personal spiritual journey, I found this enlightening quote from Buddha, “If someone gives you a gift and you refuse it, to whom does the gift belong?” I quickly realized this meant I could refuse others drama, unproductive habits and disrespectful behaviors. How refreshing!
Until next time remember: To be an attractive, fascinating woman: Exude confidence (fake it until you make it), accept that attraction begins with the visual and care for your appearance, do what it takes to be healthy, set personal boundaries and above all make a decision to be happy.
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Gayla Wick, Denver Love Coach and author of The Art of Attracting Authentic Love (A Transformational Four-Step Process) shows women how to go from frustrated and disappointed to attracting an authentic love match with confidence and clarity.