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Online Dating – Ghosts and Goblins Anyone?
Author: Gayla Wick

American Greed, a popular reality television series features a variety of true crime stories focused on just how people are scammed out of their money, sometimes their life savings. 

Episodes have included several Romance Scams which I find particularly sad.

Even as a love relationship expert, I’m shocked and saddened by the stories of lonely singles being taken advantage of by low life con artists. This is not only a preventable tragedy, it’s criminal. Men and women use social media and dating websites seeking a real love connection, not to be robbed of their money and their dignity.

While romance scams are common I don’t want you to be dissuaded from dating. Just be careful and know the red flags that something is not right. Be sure to read all of my articles in this series. Learn from them and you can protect yourself. There are good people genuinely looking for a love connection. Aren’t you one of them? How does a romance scam work?

In a recent story featured on American Greed Grace (alias) thought she’d found her perfect match. He was an officer in the military with a child. She was thrilled at this Facebook find. Just the night before she’d prayed for a love match just like this – a military man with a child. Now here he was she thought. They began an email correspondence. Then just a few weeks later Mr. Scumbag told her he needed $2000 for his child to attend a special program. She wrote the check. A few weeks later another sob story about needing a larger sum of money. She pushed back and he accused her of not really being into their relationship. She relented and gave him the money he’d demanded. Red flags were everywhere in this scenario, but she ignored them.

Online Dating Rule 7: Make sure he really exists

Yes, make sure he is a real person and not a fictional character and then see Online Rule Number 6. Grace was scammed out of her money and left with a broken heart. What she needed to know:

  • If you’ve never met him , you are not in a relationship
  • Handsome military men do not marry women they’ve never met
  • Desperate, lonely women are a prime scammers target
  • Healthy men do not ask for money from girlfriends
  • He did not exist –something a little checking would have revealed


Grace was a chiropractor, not a stupid person, but seriously naïve and far too desperate for love. Meeting someone on social media or online is fine, but that needs to be quickly followed up with a face to face encounter. If he is unavailable within a reasonable period of time, move on. Do you want to date a ghost? Even worse a fictional character who quickly asks for money? During her American Greed interview Grace said she thought they were going to get married. This was sadly delusional.

This poor woman needed to read my book and sign-up for my love coaching program to learn about and embrace her self-worth. Any woman who does not truly love and care for herself first can be victimized. Don’t let this happen to you.

The four-step process I’ve outlined in my book, The Art of Attracting Authentic Love (A Transformational Four-Step Process) will give you the knowledge you need for dating with confidence and the peace of mind – guidelines for a real partnership.

Don’t put yourself in a position to fall for men who are unworthy of you. The more you know about online dating and dating in general, the better your results will be. Is it time to get a little guidance from a relationship expert? Contact me – the Denver Love Coach and let’s talk about where you are now and where you’d like to be with a love relationship.


Gayla Wick, Denver Love Coach and author of The Art of Attracting Authentic Love (A Transformational Four-Step Process) shows women how to go from frustrated and disappointed to attracting an authentic love match with confidence and clarity. Connect and get her free Top Ten Reasons Women are Still Single   at









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