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Online Dating – Who Cares What Friends Say?

Gayla Wick - Wednesday, October 24, 2018

Listening to warnings from friends and family can be challenging, but I urge you to carefully consider what they have to say about your new man. Listening to a loved one who cares about you is smart even if it’s not what you want to hear.

Choose someone who has no ulterior motives and pay attention if they are warning you about your date’s behavior. You may be too smitten with new love to fully recognize red flags before it’s too late.

There have been numerous articles about the short lived marriage of the television personality in the story below. Her story is a good example of why it’s important to evaluate concerns from those who love you and want only the best for you.

The woman in this story married a man none of her friends trusted. They sensed something was off about their friend’s relationship and repeatedly tried to warn her. The marriage lasted only seven months. What happened? This lovely smart, but “too ready for love” woman ignored critical warning signs.

Yes, there are situations when it may be necessary to listen to yourself and ignore family and friends, but these occasions are the exception, not the rule.

Online Dating Rule 9: Carefully consider friends and family concerns

Luann Lesseps from the television series, The Real Housewives of New York gave her side of the story in a People Magazine interview. I’ve watched snippets of this show from time to time, but generally there is way too much drama and in general just mean spirited behavior in these types of shows for me. If you are a fan do enjoy - no judgment. We all have our television show guilty pleasures. Marriage Bootcamp anyone?

According to Lesseps just five months into the marriage her husband, Tom was caught by the press meeting with ex-girlfriends. Meeting with an ex-girlfriend is generally not a good idea nor is it supportive of a new marriage. However, there are exceptions. If someone has previously been a long-term relationship and has the opportunity to meet up with their ex over lunch or tea to catch-up it doesn’t have to be a problem as long as their spouse knows about it first. Meeting in secret is strictly off limits. Remember: the person is married to you. Be confident that he made his choice and that choice is you.

She reported a lovely day followed by a dinner party with friends, some of whom were house guests. At 11:30 PM, her husband announced he was going out alone. This behavior is simply unacceptable within a marriage.

What kind of man prefers to go out late at night by himself leaving his wife and house guests?

What kind of man would make this choice over cuddling in bed with his new wife?

This was clearly not that into her behavior. Fortunately Lesseps woke up to what was really happening, but only after he was caught kissing his ex-girlfriend. Marriage - definitely over.

Luann- I’m rooting for you girl! You deserve way better than this!

Now that you know way more than most people about online dating, isn’t it time to make a personal love attraction plan? The four-step process I’ve outlined in my book, The Art of Attracting Authentic Love (A Transformational Four-Step Process) will guide you through a process to put you in the driver’s seat in dating. Order your copy today at or Happy reading!!

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Gayla Wick, Denver Love Coach and author of The Art of Attracting Authentic Love (A Transformational Four-Step Process) shows women how to go from frustrated and disappointed to attracting an authentic love match with confidence and clarity. Connect and get her free  Top Ten Reasons Women are Still Single  at .


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