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Online Dating – Are Your Eyes Wide Open?

Gayla Wick - Wednesday, September 19, 2018

When meeting someone from an online dating website it’s critical to have your eyes wide open for signs he’s genuine and truly interested in getting to know you. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve worked with women who tell me they ignored sign after sign that something was really off about their date. Marian (alias) confided that her new man was behaving strangely from the beginning. He would make plans with her and then arrive late without any explanation. He never asked for her input on where to go or what to do, yet behaved as if he was being taken advantage of in some way. She felt stressed from his tense energy and didn’t know what to do.

Marion, my dear – stop already. Do not continue to date someone who makes you feel anxious, is disrespectful of your time and doesn’t involve you in decisions. This is crazy town stuff for a smart, successful, confident woman. Remember, when a man asks you out for a date, it’s up to him to arrive on time and show you an enjoyable evening. After a few dates selected solely by him, it’s time for him to seek your input. Anyone who does not do this isn’t ready to be in a partnership with you. He may seem sweet and romantic at first but, when he fails to show any interest in really getting to know you, disrespects you and your time pay attention. These are not the qualities you want in a date/mate. Be brave and ask him about it.

Online Dating Rule 2: Don’t ignore warning signs

When a man behaves like he doing you a favor by taking you out, know that’s a red flag. You are giving him the pleasure of your company on a date he suggested. A man who acts like you owe him something is usually looking for sex. When he suggests he’s going out of his way and he’s not altogether happy about it, be willing to address it. Be brave and ask him why he seems less than happy about the date. Any complaints from him about the activity or cost should elicit a laugh from you along with a reminder that it was his idea. Most of us are not mind readers. If he expected something else then he needs to be transparent. Do you really want to play mind games with someone you just met?

If you are thinking, well no one is perfect, you are right. Remember, he’s a stranger who needs to be on his best behavior if he’s truly interested in you. From page 197 in my book, The Art of Attracting Authentic Love (A Transformational Four-Step Process): Life is too long to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.

Stay tuned for next week’s article for the best way to tell if he is interested in you or your looks or your wallet.

The more you know and learn how to successfully navigate dating and love relationships, the better your results will be. Is it time to get a little guidance from a relationship expert? Contact me – the Denver Love Coach and let’s talk about where you are now and where you’d like to be with a love relationship.

Gayla Wick, Denver Love Coach and author of The Art of Attracting Authentic Love (A Transformational Four-Step Process) shows women how to go from frustrated and disappointed to attracting an authentic love match with confidence and clarity. Connect and get her free  Top Ten Reasons Women are Still Single at .


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