Finding the Love of Your Life

If you are single and were looking forward to having the love of your life before now, I encourage you to enter this New Year with clarity around what you are leaving behind in 2011.  Even if you are in a love relationship or marriage it’s still an important question to ask yourself. It is equally vital for you to make decisions about what you’ll take with you into 2012 to cherish and enhance.  We’ve read the books and know much more about what we each individually need to do to embrace our best lives, so now is the time for taking action.  Many people talk about what they’re planning to do, but actually taking steps to do the things we’ve talked about is what takes real courage.

To move with greater ease into this next place I’ve decided to complete a short exercise for myself.  We’re all busy so I like to keep lists as short as possible while still including the priority items. So my suggestion (which I’m following myself) is to make a list of 5 things we want to leave behind when 2011 comes to a close and to follow that with 5 things we loved about our year and want to carry over into 2012.  Sounds easy enough, but it takes some quiet time to accomplish this in a way that we’ll be able to use for our benefit.

Limiting beliefs are on my “leave behind” list.  I hope you’ll take time to identify your limiting beliefs.  I often talk with single women about their beliefs and almost always find sentiments like this: there is a shortage of quality men, I’ll never have a lasting love relationship, I’m not truly deserving of a committed love relationship, I’ll have to settle for someone who’s not ideal, etc. These limiting beliefs and hundreds of others are thoughts that must be left behind in order for your heart’s desire to manifest. Other items to consider are: thoughts of lack and fear, a constantly chattering inner critic, mistakes we’ve made and harsh judgments of others choices to name just a few. I’ve named these just to give you some food for thought as you contemplate your own list. Once completed, I encourage you to take action to place these firmly in the past by discontinuing feeding them with any energy.  Let them die of starvation from inattention.

Now for the next step – make a list of what you are bringing along into 2012.  Some ideas: good eating habits and regular exercise for the body, an optimistic view of life and a commitment to live in joy (happiness + love) for your soul and consistent thoughts of your highest good personally and professionally for your mind.  Again, these are just some ideas to consider as you decide what you’ll have as companions during the next year. Some may say “easier said than done,” and while that may be true it’s not a reason not to do what’s best for ourselves.  The bottom line is that we choose our thoughts and so we can choose to change them.  So let’s decide what we’re giving energy to and practice feeding only what we want to see show up in our life in 2012.

Until next time remember:  The most important thing about our past is what we learned from it to enhance our now.