Finding the Love of Your Life

Here I am lying on the floor in my pajamas.  I saw it as I passed through the kitchen on the way to my office – that swath of beautiful sunshine like a runway on the carpet.  While I love living in Colorado, I’m just a bit tired of being cold right now.  The warmth of that sunshine across the floor calls to me.  I’ll just lay down in it and contemplate the blog post I’m writing.  Oh, it feels divine and I don’t want to get up.  I write best when I’m relaxed in the moment, so I embrace the feeling of warmth and settle in for a few minutes.  The title of the blog comes to me quickly.  It’s February, the month we’re reminded of love in so many ways and I decide it’s important to remember that any day can be a special “I Love You” day.

As I write this post on Valentine’s Day, I know you’ll be reading it the day after.  Some of you, will still be smiling about your Valentine’s Day experience while others may be reviewing their disappointment.  My advice: know when to hold on and when to let go.  Cherish what brings you joy and find a way to quickly process any unpleasant feelings and then let them go.  Easier said than done, I know.  Just because some things are difficult doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do them anyway. Think of a time when you did overcome feeling dejected to achieve a better feeling emotional balance. Decide to take a small step in the direction of love and offer a smile to someone who surely needs it.

If you are single and didn’t treat yourself or receive a gift yesterday, you can invite love in anyway.  Love is one of the only things that is not diminished when given away.  And, of course you can’t give away what you don’t have, so love yourself first and then make someone elses day with a gift of loving presence, flowers, candy or whatever you feel you have to give – time is also a wonderful gift.  We all need someone just to listen to us once in awhile.

Couples - I hope you decide to create your own special “I Love You” days rather than waiting for February as a prompt toward romance.  I do so appreciate the reminder that comes after the holidays and in the middle of winters chill.  I write about love, teach classes about love and coach others on finding true love, yet I need the reminder as well.  It’s easy for couples to fall into comfortable routines and forget to change it up once in awhile. I’m grateful for Valentine’s Day.  I’m prompted to take pleasure in the common tasks of life and in the special celebratory moments too.  Recently, a friend let me know that he and his wife really enjoy going to home improvement stores together on weekends.  I love that!  We also embrace the opportunity to take pleasure in whatever we happen to be doing from grocery shopping to just hanging out together and of course, our date nights.

Until next time remember:  Any day can be an “I Love You” day for your relationships, romantic and platonic so choose someone who just might need a little love today and lavish it on them!