Finding the Love of Your Life

Okay, we all know February is the month of love so why would I advocate stopping the search? No, I’m not crazy – I just know that searching leads to unhappy emotions when we don’t find what we’re looking for.  This applies to both singles and couples.  Because there is so much hype, media attention, advertisements and talk about this romantic holiday many people have angst rather than love on their minds and hearts.  If you are a woman, you may be thinking this has little to do with you since it’s his role to bring on the romance this month.  If you are a man, you may love the opportunity to celebrate this special holiday with your love or you may fear disappointing her or worse you may be turned off on Valentine’s Day altogether.  It doesn’t need to be this way.

While couples may experience their challenges with knowing just what to do with this designated love holiday, the emotional roller coaster for singles can be daunting.  What to do surrounded by hand-holding deliriously happy couples - breathe deeply and relax because we’re going to talk about it. Now is not the time to be laser focused on the true love partner that has thus far eluded you.  If you really want a deeply satisfying love relationship, then you know by now I’m going to tell you to stop looking and start attracting.  During my yearlong research project for the book, I interviewed women from all over the country and not one of them was looking for true love when it came to them.  They were contentedly relaxed into their own lives, participating in their own joyful life expression and open to new possibilities.  It happened then and only then.

I don’t want to leave this blog post without sharing something for couples as well.  Simply talking about how you’d each like to celebrate Valentine’s Day can be a great starting point for having a mutually satisfying experience.  Stay tuned for next week’s blog where you’ll find more tips and ideas for the most relaxing, enjoyable and romantic Valentine’s Day ever. And thank you for continuing to read my articles!

I’m sure many of you have friends and/or family members you wish could find the love of their life as you have.  This may be the perfect time to give them a special gift to get them started in the right direction.  There is still time to order a copy of The Character of True Intimacy: Finding the Love of Your Life for them.  Order an autographed copy from my website: www.GaylaWick.com and I’ll make sure it’s gift wrapped and shipped directly to your designated recipient. (You can use your PayPal account or just enter your credit card number directly in the shopping cart). Singles – you can give yourself this gift and smile knowing you’ve invested in yourself wisely. You are so worth it!

Until next time remember:  There really is no substitute for loving yourself – live it, believe it, feel it in your heart.