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Who Said What About Love – Part 2
Author: Gayla Wick
Last week I started a new series on what other people have said about love with a purpose of educating and inspiring you. As the writer of this blog post and the researcher of these love quotes, I’ve learned much and deepened my passion for helping others find true love. I hope you’ll enjoy this new series as much as I love writing it for you. As an aside, I’m planning to include a short description of the person I’m quoting even though most of us already know who they are. One of my pet peeves is reading quotes from people I’ve never heard of or I’ve forgotten exactly who they are. It’s nice to know whose being quoted so I can think about their perspective and decide if it aligns with my beliefs or if I need to consider changing or updating my viewpoint.
This week’s quote is from a very famous musician, John Lennon. The following is an excerpt from Wikipedia: John Winston Ono Lennon, (9 October 1940 – 8 December 1980) was an English rock musician, singer, songwriter, and peace activist who gained worldwide fame as one of the founding members of The Beatles. With Paul McCartney, Lennon formed one of the most influential and successful songwriting partnerships of the 20th century and “wrote some of the most popular music in rock and roll history”. He is ranked the second most successful songwriter in UK singles chart history after McCartney. Here’s what he had to say about love”
“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”
I hope this quote resonates with you too as I believe it to be wise and universally true. One of the foundational elements of my work with singles is to remind them of who they are – individuals of great value worthy of deep and abiding love. When love is missing from our lives its absence is rooted in the lack of love for ourselves. Our culture has imprinted us with many false ideas about love. We’re taught to sacrifice ourselves to gain the approval and love of others. We’re taught that love hurts and marriage is hard work. None of these things are reality for people connected in truly intimate partnerships based on a foundation of character. When we love ourselves it’s not hard to establish healthy boundaries or to disallow others to harm us by their unacceptable behavior. We know our value and don’t settle for less than respectful interactions with others, especially in our intimate relationships.
Until next time remember: Loving yourself is more than ok, it’s a non-negotiable foundation for welcoming another loving, whole, complete and healthy person into your life.
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